![]() ![]() So stop blaming them for sleeping with and texting you. Really, men don’t want to hurt you, just like you don’t want to hurt them. Best of luck in the future.”ġ) Pick up the phone and call you because you have a burgeoning relationship that’s worth preserving, and he can’t stand to let you go.Ģ) He’ll text you, “That sux! Too bad. “It’s been fun knowing you, Dan, but I’m looking for a boyfriend, not a sexting buddy. So, reward this kind man for trying to protect your feelings by… He hasn’t done anything after sleeping with you that indicates that he wants a serious relationship with you. ![]() He’s mostly keeping in touch with texts and hoping that you coast on your attraction to him without ever second-guessing his lack of effort. Hell, he’s not even talking about dinner and a movie! He’s not talking about love and marriage. He’s not talking about the names of your kids. He’s not talking about taking you away to Paris. He’s not talking about meeting your family. This is why I’m saying that most guys are being honest with you. If there have been no phone calls or dates where he takes you out and starts to spend time (and money) on you, guess whatĪnd your guy is trying to have self-control and find that delicate balance of keeping you in his sex lif e without you falling hard for him and building a deeper emotional connection. Understand that he DOES want to keep sleeping with you because it’s in HIS self-interest.Īnd understand that everything he does next is designed to keep you INTERESTED in him without allowing you to fall in LOVE with him. Understand that he DOESN’T want you to fall in love with him. Understand that he DOESN’T want to hurt you. Understand that unless he REALLY likes you the second you leave, he’s thinking about how he can get out of this. Pay attention to how he handles himself in the next 24-48 hours. Pay attention to how he handles himself in the next 24-48 hours.ĭo you want to see where you stand with a man? Don’t pay attention to how hot your date was. It just means that we were having fun, we were tipsy, we took a chance, and we scored.ĭo you want to see where you stand with a man? Don’t pay attention to how hot your first date was. Listen, we’re just as shocked as you are when you sleep with us on a second date.īut, as you know, this doesn’t mean we want a serious relationship with you. This is not me DEFENDING men this is me, EXPLAINING men. Men don’t have to commit to you to get you in bed.Īll men have to do to get you in bed is be cute, funny, tall, smart, and successful.Īnd if that’s the case, and we sleep with you based on attraction alone, regardless of whether we have actual FEELINGS for you, it tends to get a little dicey. Men don’t have to say “I love you” to get you in bed. I’m guessing the best answer is no to all of the above. In short, to keep the peace and avoid conflict, you either do the slow fade (not calling him back immediately), or you continue to see him with reservations about your attraction and excitement.Īre you lying to him? Are you trying to hurt him? Are you a commitmentphobe who has no interest in marriage? Are you fickle and always looking for someone better? You may go out with him again, but you’re not all that into it. You date other guys until you find one you like better. You don’t return his calls in a timely fashion. Now, to be fair, most women don’t give men such rude, point-blank answers. – “What does she mean when she says she’d rather jump out of a moving car than go out on another date with me?” – “What does she mean when she says she’s been faking her orgasms with me?” – “What does she mean when she says she’s not at all attracted to me?” To the best of my knowledge, this email was not a joke, but it had me thinking about other obvious questions that had only one possible answer. “What does it mean when a man says he doesn’t want a relationship with you?” The most recent one was as mercifully short as it was inane. I try to honor and respect every woman who reads my emails and offers advice that is honest but not too brutal.īut I have to admit, from time to time, I get an email that makes me roll my eyes. I take my job as your personal trainer for love very seriously. ![]()
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